On Jul 27, 7:04*am, "Pete" wrote:
Strange, I am male, I feed the dog, I give him water, I walk him, but he
still follows my wife around the house. WIFE DOESN'T LIKE IT. How do I
attach him to me? He is a good dog. Otherwise, we have to give him back to
the kill shelter where he came from.
-Peter



Strangely enough, it is because the dog KNOWS she doesnt care much for
him, that he pays her so much attention.
He is trying to fix the situation by being loyal and attentive towards
her. And, she seems more like the leader of the pack, because you do
the chores, of feeding and walking, you seem like the worker bee to
him, and wife is of course Queen Bee.
If your wife would purposely pay him some positve attention, he would
probably relax, and back off.

"katiedid" wrote in message
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On Jul 27, 7:04 am, "Pete" wrote:
Strange, I am male, I feed the dog, I give him water, I walk him, but he
still follows my wife around the house. WIFE DOESN'T LIKE IT. How do I
attach him to me? He is a good dog. Otherwise, we have to give him back to
the kill shelter where he came from.
-Peter



Strangely enough, it is because the dog KNOWS she doesnt care much for
him, that he pays her so much attention.
He is trying to fix the situation by being loyal and attentive towards
her. And, she seems more like the leader of the pack, because you do
the chores, of feeding and walking, you seem like the worker bee to
him, and wife is of course Queen Bee.
If your wife would purposely pay him some positve attention, he would
probably relax, and back off.


Good thought. Thanks.

On 2008-08-10 17:34:52 -0400, "Pete" said:

Strangely enough, it is because the dog KNOWS she doesnt care much for
him, that he pays her so much attention.

What leads you to believe this is so?

He is trying to fix the situation by being loyal and attentive towards
her. And, she seems more like the leader of the pack, because you do
the chores, of feeding and walking, you seem like the worker bee to
him, and wife is of course Queen Bee.

Is there any sort of research that backs this theory up? I've never
heard that the person who provides the dog with everything is dismissed
by a dog as a drone.

If your wife would purposely pay him some positve attention, he would
probably relax, and back off.

Has this been your experience?

On Aug 10, 8:04*pm, montana wildhack
wrote:
On 2008-08-10 17:34:52 -0400, "Pete" said:

Strangely enough, it is because the dog KNOWS she doesnt care much for
him, that he pays her so much attention.

What leads you to believe this is so?

From having a similar experience, and then being directed to reading
about 'dog pack theory.'


He is trying to fix the situation by being loyal and attentive towards
her. And, she seems more like the leader of the pack, because you do
the chores, of feeding and walking, you seem like the worker bee to
him, and wife is of course Queen Bee.



Is there any sort of research that backs this theory up? I've never
heard that the person who provides the dog with everything is dismissed
by a dog as a drone.


yes, look up theories about' dog packs' and the top dog. just google
it
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If your wife would purposely pay him some positve attention, he would
probably relax, and back off.

Has this been your experience?

Absolutely. Our college freshman son got himself a lovely German
Shephard puppy, promising to take care of her.
Of course, he can't really because he works and goes to school, and
then goes out with his friends- SO of course I feed her, walk her,
hang out with her, and I spend far more time with her than anyone else
does.
Now, my husband was not happy about the puppy idea, and tried to
ignore her, and to pretend like she was not chewing up everything and
shedding everywhere. So he would pretty much deny her existence. The
dog became crazy in love with him, following him whenever he came
home, sat as close to him as possible whenever she could, and if he
did happen to pay her any attention, she would be so thankful and full
of joy. She would wag her tail so hard it was unreal. If he looks down
and sees a mess she has made, she runs away to hide in shame until she
feels safe to come back. He has never hit her or mistreated her in any
way. She is just so aware of everything he thinks about her.
Not so much with my opinion. If I see a torn up item, or a mess, she
kind of shrugs, and looks at me, like, whatever, sorry. She loves me
dearly, but she treats me more like a litter mate, or like a worker
bee.
A trainer told me its likely that because I feed her,and praise her,
every day, no matter what she does, good or bad, she thinks, why try
to please me. There is no point other than that she loves me. but she
knows I love her.
BUT She will do backflips for my husband if she thinks he will give
her a pat on the head meanwhile.

In article ,
katiedid wrote:
yes, look up theories about' dog packs' and the top dog. just google
it

Cite one piece of research that supports your assertion.
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On 2008-08-11 03:38:02 -0400, katiedid said:

She loves me
dearly, but she treats me more like a litter mate,


Bingo. It isn't because you're a worker bee.