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Child wrote:
"Suja" wrote in message I have an incredibly offensive coworker, whom is basically venomous and abusive. We had somebody like that here for years but she just ran away. Clearly, ignoring mikey doesn't change the behavior. We have been trying that for years. I have occasionally tried to engage Mikey in real conversation, and occasionally it works. Just curious, did you try anything with shelly and if so, was it successful? Perhaps there is more than one way to skin a cat. and maybe there are some cats who can't be caught, let alone skinned? hmmmm? scratching chin, gazing upwards to the left -- this is michael reporting live... http://dogtv.com |
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Child wrote:
"Suja" wrote in message I have an incredibly offensive coworker, whom is basically venomous and abusive. We had somebody like that here for years but she just ran away. Clearly, ignoring mikey doesn't change the behavior. We have been trying that for years. I have occasionally tried to engage Mikey in real conversation, and occasionally it works. Just curious, did you try anything with shelly and if so, was it successful? Perhaps there is more than one way to skin a cat. and maybe there are some cats who can't be caught, let alone skinned? hmmmm? scratching chin, gazing upwards to the left -- this is michael reporting live... http://dogtv.com |
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Child wrote:
"Suja" wrote in message I have an incredibly offensive coworker, whom is basically venomous and abusive. We had somebody like that here for years but she just ran away. Clearly, ignoring mikey doesn't change the behavior. We have been trying that for years. I have occasionally tried to engage Mikey in real conversation, and occasionally it works. Just curious, did you try anything with shelly and if so, was it successful? Perhaps there is more than one way to skin a cat. and maybe there are some cats who can't be caught, let alone skinned? hmmmm? scratching chin, gazing upwards to the left -- this is michael reporting live... http://dogtv.com |
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On Sat, 25 Sep 2004 23:04:40 -0800, "Child"
wrote: I have an incredibly offensive coworker, whom is basically venomous and abusive. I have no idea what he has on my boss, that she hasnt' fired him but there must be something. My first method of dealing with him was to ignore him. That didnt' work because he took my silence to his nasty comments about coworkers as agreement. So my next method was to reward the behavior I liked, and to punish the bad behavior. Basically, when he said negative things, I yelled at him to get the hell out of my office and when he behaved nicely i spoke nicely back. He's stopped talking trash in my office and we actually have pleasant conversations. Clearly, ignoring mikey doesn't change the behavior. We have been trying that for years. I have occasionally tried to engage Mikey in real conversation, and occasionally it works. Perhaps there is more than one way to skin a cat. To apply your co-worker method to Mikey and others, one should then do the usenet equivalent of yelling at him to get the hell out of the office when he is being negative and only have a conversation when he is behaving nicely. That sounds about right. Can you see why if you listened attentively to the trash talk or laughed along with him when he was trashing others that he might end up in your office every time he wanted to talk trash and might even spend extra time making up trash to share with you if he enjoyed his time in your office? This is why I say I have no problem with people telling Mikey he is an ass but I have a big problem with people engaging him rewardingly when he is being an ass. -- Paula "The smell of burning rubber chickens and singed roller-skating chimps will teach a man to hate." ---swt |
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On Sat, 25 Sep 2004 23:04:40 -0800, "Child"
wrote: I have an incredibly offensive coworker, whom is basically venomous and abusive. I have no idea what he has on my boss, that she hasnt' fired him but there must be something. My first method of dealing with him was to ignore him. That didnt' work because he took my silence to his nasty comments about coworkers as agreement. So my next method was to reward the behavior I liked, and to punish the bad behavior. Basically, when he said negative things, I yelled at him to get the hell out of my office and when he behaved nicely i spoke nicely back. He's stopped talking trash in my office and we actually have pleasant conversations. Clearly, ignoring mikey doesn't change the behavior. We have been trying that for years. I have occasionally tried to engage Mikey in real conversation, and occasionally it works. Perhaps there is more than one way to skin a cat. To apply your co-worker method to Mikey and others, one should then do the usenet equivalent of yelling at him to get the hell out of the office when he is being negative and only have a conversation when he is behaving nicely. That sounds about right. Can you see why if you listened attentively to the trash talk or laughed along with him when he was trashing others that he might end up in your office every time he wanted to talk trash and might even spend extra time making up trash to share with you if he enjoyed his time in your office? This is why I say I have no problem with people telling Mikey he is an ass but I have a big problem with people engaging him rewardingly when he is being an ass. -- Paula "The smell of burning rubber chickens and singed roller-skating chimps will teach a man to hate." ---swt |
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On Sat, 25 Sep 2004 23:04:40 -0800, "Child"
wrote: I have an incredibly offensive coworker, whom is basically venomous and abusive. I have no idea what he has on my boss, that she hasnt' fired him but there must be something. My first method of dealing with him was to ignore him. That didnt' work because he took my silence to his nasty comments about coworkers as agreement. So my next method was to reward the behavior I liked, and to punish the bad behavior. Basically, when he said negative things, I yelled at him to get the hell out of my office and when he behaved nicely i spoke nicely back. He's stopped talking trash in my office and we actually have pleasant conversations. Clearly, ignoring mikey doesn't change the behavior. We have been trying that for years. I have occasionally tried to engage Mikey in real conversation, and occasionally it works. Perhaps there is more than one way to skin a cat. To apply your co-worker method to Mikey and others, one should then do the usenet equivalent of yelling at him to get the hell out of the office when he is being negative and only have a conversation when he is behaving nicely. That sounds about right. Can you see why if you listened attentively to the trash talk or laughed along with him when he was trashing others that he might end up in your office every time he wanted to talk trash and might even spend extra time making up trash to share with you if he enjoyed his time in your office? This is why I say I have no problem with people telling Mikey he is an ass but I have a big problem with people engaging him rewardingly when he is being an ass. -- Paula "The smell of burning rubber chickens and singed roller-skating chimps will teach a man to hate." ---swt |
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"dogsnus" wrote in message Terri, would you email me? Lois E |
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"dogsnus" wrote in message Terri, would you email me? Lois E |
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"dogsnus" wrote in message Terri, would you email me? Lois E |
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