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Delayed Anxiety Problems
I've adopted two Boxers to my sister, male & female, a year apart. The
female was grotesquely abused & neglected. She was so bad that its amazing she's still alive. Mary was found at age 1, possibly even in the 10-11mo range and while I won't go into specifics, it was not hard to prove that she'd never received any training, socialization or attention that wasn't negative. She'd also lived outside. Mary had the mentality & behaviors of a 3-6mo puppy if that tells you anything. Now she's a 2yo who tends to act like a 9mo. Intellect-wise, she's very smart, generally a fast learner and twists herself into knots to please people (that's another reason we believe the chewing is anxiety related because she knows its not an allowable past-time and she hates to displease). My BIL is in the Navy and has gone out to sea for 6 weeks. He went out for 3 months last year and this happened then as well. He'll be coming back only to restock his ship before he leaves again for 6 months. Anyway, Mary has been fine since he left 3 weeks ago. Suddenly she won't let my sister out of her sight. Sis was out back mowing the lawn last weekend and the dogs had a perfect view of her from the sliding glass doors in the kitchen. She'd also given each one a pig's ear before going outside. She came back in to find Mary gnawing on the desk. The other night she left the kitchen to go into the garage for all of 5 minutes and came back to find Mary just beginning to gnaw on the kitchen table. She says that, in thinking back, Mary starting these anxiety destructive behaviors last year when BIL left as well and they too didn't start for 3 weeks. Mary is now like a huge piece of velcro that just won't unstick. Anyone ever heard of a delayed anxiety reaction like this? Is it that its just taken her this long to realize daddy isn't coming back so now she's afraid mom will leave & not come back too? It just seems like a good chunk of time to let pass before anxiety kicks in. -- Tara |
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"Tee" wrote:
Anyone ever heard of a delayed anxiety reaction like this? Yes. I've heard similar stories from many owners of rescued dogs. You can expect a rescued dog to possibly be withdrawn and not show his "true personality" until he gains a sense of emotional security. It does seem strange that once a level of security is reached, the anxiety-related behavior problems begin. But it happens, and apparently quite frequently. Here's my theory about it. (Jjust my opinion, no study or research done :}. I believe that some dogs are so emotionally damaged from lack of stability in puppyhood that they don't go through the adolescent stage at the "normal" age. Once they are placed in an environment where they are able to develop emotionally, many of them experience a "delayed" adolescence. They are now secure enough to start testing their limits. Also, until this point, the dog has had no close relationship with a family. It takes some time to develop this relationship, and the dog can't treasure what he doesn't yet have. Once the bond is secure, THEN the dog becomes anxious about losing it. More than likely his experience has been that just as he starts to get close to people, they leave him. Like I said, just my opinion... Canine Action Dog Trainer http://www.canineaction.com My Kids, My Students, My Life: http://hometown.aol.com/dfrntdrums/m...age/index.html |
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"Tee" wrote:
Anyone ever heard of a delayed anxiety reaction like this? Yes. I've heard similar stories from many owners of rescued dogs. You can expect a rescued dog to possibly be withdrawn and not show his "true personality" until he gains a sense of emotional security. It does seem strange that once a level of security is reached, the anxiety-related behavior problems begin. But it happens, and apparently quite frequently. Here's my theory about it. (Jjust my opinion, no study or research done :}. I believe that some dogs are so emotionally damaged from lack of stability in puppyhood that they don't go through the adolescent stage at the "normal" age. Once they are placed in an environment where they are able to develop emotionally, many of them experience a "delayed" adolescence. They are now secure enough to start testing their limits. Also, until this point, the dog has had no close relationship with a family. It takes some time to develop this relationship, and the dog can't treasure what he doesn't yet have. Once the bond is secure, THEN the dog becomes anxious about losing it. More than likely his experience has been that just as he starts to get close to people, they leave him. Like I said, just my opinion... Canine Action Dog Trainer http://www.canineaction.com My Kids, My Students, My Life: http://hometown.aol.com/dfrntdrums/m...age/index.html |
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"Tee" wrote:
Anyone ever heard of a delayed anxiety reaction like this? Yes. I've heard similar stories from many owners of rescued dogs. You can expect a rescued dog to possibly be withdrawn and not show his "true personality" until he gains a sense of emotional security. It does seem strange that once a level of security is reached, the anxiety-related behavior problems begin. But it happens, and apparently quite frequently. Here's my theory about it. (Jjust my opinion, no study or research done :}. I believe that some dogs are so emotionally damaged from lack of stability in puppyhood that they don't go through the adolescent stage at the "normal" age. Once they are placed in an environment where they are able to develop emotionally, many of them experience a "delayed" adolescence. They are now secure enough to start testing their limits. Also, until this point, the dog has had no close relationship with a family. It takes some time to develop this relationship, and the dog can't treasure what he doesn't yet have. Once the bond is secure, THEN the dog becomes anxious about losing it. More than likely his experience has been that just as he starts to get close to people, they leave him. Like I said, just my opinion... Canine Action Dog Trainer http://www.canineaction.com My Kids, My Students, My Life: http://hometown.aol.com/dfrntdrums/m...age/index.html |
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"Tee" wrote:
Anyone ever heard of a delayed anxiety reaction like this? Yes. I've heard similar stories from many owners of rescued dogs. You can expect a rescued dog to possibly be withdrawn and not show his "true personality" until he gains a sense of emotional security. It does seem strange that once a level of security is reached, the anxiety-related behavior problems begin. But it happens, and apparently quite frequently. Here's my theory about it. (Jjust my opinion, no study or research done :}. I believe that some dogs are so emotionally damaged from lack of stability in puppyhood that they don't go through the adolescent stage at the "normal" age. Once they are placed in an environment where they are able to develop emotionally, many of them experience a "delayed" adolescence. They are now secure enough to start testing their limits. Also, until this point, the dog has had no close relationship with a family. It takes some time to develop this relationship, and the dog can't treasure what he doesn't yet have. Once the bond is secure, THEN the dog becomes anxious about losing it. More than likely his experience has been that just as he starts to get close to people, they leave him. Like I said, just my opinion... Canine Action Dog Trainer http://www.canineaction.com My Kids, My Students, My Life: http://hometown.aol.com/dfrntdrums/m...age/index.html |
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"Leah" -OFF wrote in message
... "Tee" wrote: Anyone ever heard of a delayed anxiety reaction like this? Yes. I've heard similar stories from many owners of rescued dogs. You can expect a rescued dog to possibly be withdrawn and not show his "true personality" until he gains a sense of emotional security. It does seem strange that once a level of security is reached, the anxiety-related behavior problems begin. But it happens, and apparently quite frequently. Here's my theory about it. (Jjust my opinion, no study or research done :}. I believe that some dogs are so emotionally damaged from lack of stability in puppyhood that they don't go through the adolescent stage at the "normal" age. Once they are placed in an environment where they are able to develop emotionally, many of them experience a "delayed" adolescence. They are now secure enough to start testing their limits. Also, until this point, the dog has had no close relationship with a family. It takes some time to develop this relationship, and the dog can't treasure what he doesn't yet have. Once the bond is secure, THEN the dog becomes anxious about losing it. More than likely his experience has been that just as he starts to get close to people, they leave him. Like I said, just my opinion... Thanks Leah. I do know about personalities not coming out right away and so on but I find Mary's behavior odd because she was adopted a year ago and settled in very quickly. Hunter, the male I adopted to them two years ago goes through a small depression when my BIL goes out to sea but its right away and lasts for 1-2 weeks. Mary is fine until the 3rd week and then she starts with what looks like separation anxiety. Its just odd that it takes that long for her to realize my BIL isn't coming back and to start panicking about it. -- Tara |
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"Leah" -OFF wrote in message
... "Tee" wrote: Anyone ever heard of a delayed anxiety reaction like this? Yes. I've heard similar stories from many owners of rescued dogs. You can expect a rescued dog to possibly be withdrawn and not show his "true personality" until he gains a sense of emotional security. It does seem strange that once a level of security is reached, the anxiety-related behavior problems begin. But it happens, and apparently quite frequently. Here's my theory about it. (Jjust my opinion, no study or research done :}. I believe that some dogs are so emotionally damaged from lack of stability in puppyhood that they don't go through the adolescent stage at the "normal" age. Once they are placed in an environment where they are able to develop emotionally, many of them experience a "delayed" adolescence. They are now secure enough to start testing their limits. Also, until this point, the dog has had no close relationship with a family. It takes some time to develop this relationship, and the dog can't treasure what he doesn't yet have. Once the bond is secure, THEN the dog becomes anxious about losing it. More than likely his experience has been that just as he starts to get close to people, they leave him. Like I said, just my opinion... Thanks Leah. I do know about personalities not coming out right away and so on but I find Mary's behavior odd because she was adopted a year ago and settled in very quickly. Hunter, the male I adopted to them two years ago goes through a small depression when my BIL goes out to sea but its right away and lasts for 1-2 weeks. Mary is fine until the 3rd week and then she starts with what looks like separation anxiety. Its just odd that it takes that long for her to realize my BIL isn't coming back and to start panicking about it. -- Tara |
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"Leah" -OFF wrote in message
... "Tee" wrote: Anyone ever heard of a delayed anxiety reaction like this? Yes. I've heard similar stories from many owners of rescued dogs. You can expect a rescued dog to possibly be withdrawn and not show his "true personality" until he gains a sense of emotional security. It does seem strange that once a level of security is reached, the anxiety-related behavior problems begin. But it happens, and apparently quite frequently. Here's my theory about it. (Jjust my opinion, no study or research done :}. I believe that some dogs are so emotionally damaged from lack of stability in puppyhood that they don't go through the adolescent stage at the "normal" age. Once they are placed in an environment where they are able to develop emotionally, many of them experience a "delayed" adolescence. They are now secure enough to start testing their limits. Also, until this point, the dog has had no close relationship with a family. It takes some time to develop this relationship, and the dog can't treasure what he doesn't yet have. Once the bond is secure, THEN the dog becomes anxious about losing it. More than likely his experience has been that just as he starts to get close to people, they leave him. Like I said, just my opinion... Thanks Leah. I do know about personalities not coming out right away and so on but I find Mary's behavior odd because she was adopted a year ago and settled in very quickly. Hunter, the male I adopted to them two years ago goes through a small depression when my BIL goes out to sea but its right away and lasts for 1-2 weeks. Mary is fine until the 3rd week and then she starts with what looks like separation anxiety. Its just odd that it takes that long for her to realize my BIL isn't coming back and to start panicking about it. -- Tara |
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"Leah" -OFF wrote in message
... "Tee" wrote: Anyone ever heard of a delayed anxiety reaction like this? Yes. I've heard similar stories from many owners of rescued dogs. You can expect a rescued dog to possibly be withdrawn and not show his "true personality" until he gains a sense of emotional security. It does seem strange that once a level of security is reached, the anxiety-related behavior problems begin. But it happens, and apparently quite frequently. Here's my theory about it. (Jjust my opinion, no study or research done :}. I believe that some dogs are so emotionally damaged from lack of stability in puppyhood that they don't go through the adolescent stage at the "normal" age. Once they are placed in an environment where they are able to develop emotionally, many of them experience a "delayed" adolescence. They are now secure enough to start testing their limits. Also, until this point, the dog has had no close relationship with a family. It takes some time to develop this relationship, and the dog can't treasure what he doesn't yet have. Once the bond is secure, THEN the dog becomes anxious about losing it. More than likely his experience has been that just as he starts to get close to people, they leave him. Like I said, just my opinion... Thanks Leah. I do know about personalities not coming out right away and so on but I find Mary's behavior odd because she was adopted a year ago and settled in very quickly. Hunter, the male I adopted to them two years ago goes through a small depression when my BIL goes out to sea but its right away and lasts for 1-2 weeks. Mary is fine until the 3rd week and then she starts with what looks like separation anxiety. Its just odd that it takes that long for her to realize my BIL isn't coming back and to start panicking about it. -- Tara |
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