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Dog imprinted on me
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My husband and I just brought home a new dog (poodle) the dog is an adult (1.5 years) and within 2 days of being home with us he has "imprinted" on me. The dog is still intact -- we'll be getting him fixed next week and in the mean time I am trying to limit my contact with the dog and have my husband take up the emotional slack. Is there anything else I can do? Thanks for your help! |
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Tee wrote:
"Janet Puistonen" wrote in message news:07LKe.6041$lK2.5258@trndny01... wrote: Hey, My husband and I just brought home a new dog (poodle) the dog is an adult (1.5 years) and within 2 days of being home with us he has "imprinted" on me. The dog is still intact -- we'll be getting him fixed next week and in the mean time I am trying to limit my contact with the dog and have my husband take up the emotional slack. Is there anything else I can do? Thanks for your help! Imprinted on you? I've never heard people use this term with dogs, but hey, live and learn. Are you saying that the dog has bonded to you? If so, be glad. If you are saying that the dog seems to be more attached to you than to your husband, well, dogs commonly pick out one person in a household to be "theirs." Your husband can simply woo him, and all should be well. You seem to be linking this imprinting with his being intact: are you saying that the dog is following you around the house trying to hump your leg? That would definitely be something you wanted to call an immediate halt to. Can you elaborate on the dog's behavior? I took the OP's meaning to mean the dog peed on her. Really? Well that would certainly fit in with her concern about his neutering. I thought she was talking about that thing that happens with some kinds of birds: that they "imprint" on the first person they see after hatching. Which normally is their mother, but can be a human (as in that movie in which the girl leads her flock on migration in a super-light airplane, the name of which I cannot recall). Well, we can hope that the OP will give us more details. |
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Sorry for the confusion and not checking back -- when I saw PuppyDoc's
response I thought better of posting. Anywho. I meant that he imprinted on me the way a bird imprints on the first thing he/she sees. The dog follows me everywhere and is distraught when I am not around. It seems like an early stage of separation anxiety (which seems odd because we only got the dog on Monday), and I do not want to encourage it. Sure it's nice that the dog seems like me, but I think encouraging this kind of obsessive behavior is just going to lead to problems down the road. I've taken to not giving the dog the attention he craves from me (which seems mean, but it appears to be working). If he is excited when I enter the room I don't pay any attention to him. I let my husband feed the dog and brush him (he likes to be brushed). It seems to be working a little. I can leave him (the dog not the husband) for small stretches and he doesn't have a melt down. Is there anything else I can do? We're working on crate training and I have a baby gate that I use to confine him to a single room where he can see me but not get to me so he gets use to the idea of not being at my side all the time. |
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On 12 Aug 2005 12:14:29 -0700, , clicked their heels
and said: Anywho. I meant that he imprinted on me the way a bird imprints on the first thing he/she sees. The dog follows me everywhere and is distraught when I am not around. OK - you just adopted him. He wants to make sure you aren't leaving him. Not unusual and not harmful. Describe "distraught". It seems like an early stage of separation anxiety (which seems odd because we only got the dog on Monday), and I do not want to encourage it. Sure it's nice that the dog seems like me, but I think encouraging this kind of obsessive behavior is just going to lead to problems down the road. I don't think you need to encourage obsessive behavior or discourage him following you. All of my pets, but particularly the dogs, are wherever I am. They do not have SA. My female dog can't stand my husband and I being in different parts of the home, especially one outside, one in. She wants to go back and forth. We limit that but she is perfectly fine left alone as well. Wanting to be with their people doesn't necessarily make a dog obsessed. I've taken to not giving the dog the attention he craves from me (which seems mean, but it appears to be working). If he is excited when I enter the room I don't pay any attention to him. I let my husband feed the dog and brush him (he likes to be brushed). Fair enough, but DO let him BE with you. He;s NEW! It seems to be working a little. I can leave him (the dog not the husband) for small stretches and he doesn't have a melt down. Is there anything else I can do? Stop stressing so much - he'll pick up on it. Just live with him. We're working on crate training and I have a baby gate that I use to confine him to a single room where he can see me but not get to me so he gets use to the idea of not being at my side all the time. To each their own. I use separation when needed (crate at classes and such) and if I'm doing something dangerous or messy (tails and paint don't mix!), but otherwise, I don't shut my dogs off from me. Companionship is why we have them after all. RELAX and spend time just existing with him instead of doting, and he'll be fine. -- Janet B www.bestfriendsdogobedience.com http://pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/bestfr...bedience/album |
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wrote in message oups.com... Sorry for the confusion and not checking back -- when I saw PuppyDoc's response I thought better of posting. Anywho. I meant that he imprinted on me the way a bird imprints on the first thing he/she sees. The dog follows me everywhere and is distraught when I am not around. It seems like an early stage of separation anxiety (which seems odd because we only got the dog on Monday), and I do not want to encourage it. Sure it's nice that the dog seems like me, but I think encouraging this kind of obsessive behavior is just going to lead to problems down the road. I've taken to not giving the dog the attention he craves from me (which seems mean, but it appears to be working). If he is excited when I enter the room I don't pay any attention to him. I let my husband feed the dog and brush him (he likes to be brushed). It seems to be working a little. I can leave him (the dog not the husband) for small stretches and he doesn't have a melt down. Is there anything else I can do? We're working on crate training and I have a baby gate that I use to confine him to a single room where he can see me but not get to me so he gets use to the idea of not being at my side all the time. I remember in the beginning when Maui wouldn't leave my side. It was great. I loved it and grew to miss him a step beside me when he started to get brave and explore a little bit. Now, he still is a step behind me for the most part (like 85% of the time) but there are other times when he'd rather lay out in the sun or other such things. I never had to worry about SA either. Anyway, congrats on the dog and enjoy him! |
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