AAAAARGH!!!!!!!!!!

What made me think I could do this motherhood thing?!? I couldn't even
raise a puppy properly!

The boys and I have been home for less than an hour all day. Whenever we
are in the house together, Chris is screaming, Alex is crying, Macula is
growling at me because I'm so obviously a bad mommy (and 'cause I don't even
have time to play a game of tug with her). I have to take the boys out for
them to be quiet--they are ok as long as they're in the car or the stroller.
I think I've memorized every shop in every mall around here, and where all
the drive-thru's are ('cause of course I can't actually *stop* at a
restaurant to eat).

The laundry is piling up, the dishes need doing, the groceries aren't put
away and if Chris doesn't stop screaming I'm going to scream myself!

I knew it was going to be hard, but I feel like a total failure. What sort
of mother can't handle being home with her children?

Sorry for the rant, thanks for listening.

Marie
Meet Macula at http://members.rogers.com/mmcw/
Meet the Kidlets at http://ca.f1.pg.photos.yahoo.com/mmcw2

Is there a twins group in your home town? My friend in Colorado had
one. The hospital, with the mother's permission, put each mother of
twins in touch with other mothers of twins for mutual support, hints and
general bitching. Not that we're not willing to listen, but talking to
people who know what you're going through can be a big help. If there's
no official twins club, could you get the phone numbers of some other
mots (mothers of twins) somehow? It is good for when the kids get old
enough to be more aware of their surroundings. There are people who
will treat twins a like glorious freaks, will shower them with attention
and keep mentioning their twin status. Letting the boys interact with
others who have had wombmates can be good for them.

In the mean time, it is normal for babies to cry, and motherhood is not
measured by how much laundry you get done.

--Lia



Marie wrote:

I knew it was going to be hard, but I feel like a total failure. What sort
of mother can't handle being home with her children?

Is there a twins group in your home town? My friend in Colorado had
one. The hospital, with the mother's permission, put each mother of
twins in touch with other mothers of twins for mutual support, hints and
general bitching. Not that we're not willing to listen, but talking to
people who know what you're going through can be a big help. If there's
no official twins club, could you get the phone numbers of some other
mots (mothers of twins) somehow? It is good for when the kids get old
enough to be more aware of their surroundings. There are people who
will treat twins a like glorious freaks, will shower them with attention
and keep mentioning their twin status. Letting the boys interact with
others who have had wombmates can be good for them.

In the mean time, it is normal for babies to cry, and motherhood is not
measured by how much laundry you get done.

--Lia



Marie wrote:

I knew it was going to be hard, but I feel like a total failure. What sort
of mother can't handle being home with her children?

Is there a twins group in your home town? My friend in Colorado had
one. The hospital, with the mother's permission, put each mother of
twins in touch with other mothers of twins for mutual support, hints and
general bitching. Not that we're not willing to listen, but talking to
people who know what you're going through can be a big help. If there's
no official twins club, could you get the phone numbers of some other
mots (mothers of twins) somehow? It is good for when the kids get old
enough to be more aware of their surroundings. There are people who
will treat twins a like glorious freaks, will shower them with attention
and keep mentioning their twin status. Letting the boys interact with
others who have had wombmates can be good for them.

In the mean time, it is normal for babies to cry, and motherhood is not
measured by how much laundry you get done.

--Lia



Marie wrote:

I knew it was going to be hard, but I feel like a total failure. What sort
of mother can't handle being home with her children?

"Marie" wrote in message
le.rogers.com...
AAAAARGH!!!!!!!!!!

What made me think I could do this motherhood thing?!? I couldn't even
raise a puppy properly!

The boys and I have been home for less than an hour all day. Whenever we
are in the house together, Chris is screaming, Alex is crying, Macula is
growling at me because I'm so obviously a bad mommy (and 'cause I don't
even
have time to play a game of tug with her). I have to take the boys out
for
them to be quiet--they are ok as long as they're in the car or the
stroller.
I think I've memorized every shop in every mall around here, and where all
the drive-thru's are ('cause of course I can't actually *stop* at a
restaurant to eat).

The laundry is piling up, the dishes need doing, the groceries aren't put
away and if Chris doesn't stop screaming I'm going to scream myself!

I knew it was going to be hard, but I feel like a total failure. What
sort
of mother can't handle being home with her children?

Sorry for the rant, thanks for listening.

Marie
Meet Macula at http://members.rogers.com/mmcw/
Meet the Kidlets at http://ca.f1.pg.photos.yahoo.com/mmcw2




- I think babies are supposed to be like that the house nor the
choirs aren't going anywhere so don't stress too much about that.

- Remember that I don't have any kids myself, so what I am about to say
might be very off and not anything you need to pay attention too but
.......... you might want to stop giving in to taking the boys on rides in
the car and walking them up and down town in order to keep them quiet. Our
old neighbour had a baby that could only sleep in the car (a running car) so
each night one of the parents would drive baby around all night in order for
the other parent to be able to sleep. Not only was is very expensive but
also very frustrating for family life and the fact that one parent wouldn't
get a chance to sleep....
At some point the boys will have to learn that you don't exist for them
only


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"Marie" wrote in message
le.rogers.com...
AAAAARGH!!!!!!!!!!

What made me think I could do this motherhood thing?!? I couldn't even
raise a puppy properly!

The boys and I have been home for less than an hour all day. Whenever we
are in the house together, Chris is screaming, Alex is crying, Macula is
growling at me because I'm so obviously a bad mommy (and 'cause I don't
even
have time to play a game of tug with her). I have to take the boys out
for
them to be quiet--they are ok as long as they're in the car or the
stroller.
I think I've memorized every shop in every mall around here, and where all
the drive-thru's are ('cause of course I can't actually *stop* at a
restaurant to eat).

The laundry is piling up, the dishes need doing, the groceries aren't put
away and if Chris doesn't stop screaming I'm going to scream myself!

I knew it was going to be hard, but I feel like a total failure. What
sort
of mother can't handle being home with her children?

Sorry for the rant, thanks for listening.

Marie
Meet Macula at http://members.rogers.com/mmcw/
Meet the Kidlets at http://ca.f1.pg.photos.yahoo.com/mmcw2




- I think babies are supposed to be like that the house nor the
choirs aren't going anywhere so don't stress too much about that.

- Remember that I don't have any kids myself, so what I am about to say
might be very off and not anything you need to pay attention too but
.......... you might want to stop giving in to taking the boys on rides in
the car and walking them up and down town in order to keep them quiet. Our
old neighbour had a baby that could only sleep in the car (a running car) so
each night one of the parents would drive baby around all night in order for
the other parent to be able to sleep. Not only was is very expensive but
also very frustrating for family life and the fact that one parent wouldn't
get a chance to sleep....
At some point the boys will have to learn that you don't exist for them
only


Lone


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"Marie" wrote in message
le.rogers.com...
AAAAARGH!!!!!!!!!!

What made me think I could do this motherhood thing?!? I couldn't even
raise a puppy properly!

The boys and I have been home for less than an hour all day. Whenever we
are in the house together, Chris is screaming, Alex is crying, Macula is
growling at me because I'm so obviously a bad mommy (and 'cause I don't
even
have time to play a game of tug with her). I have to take the boys out
for
them to be quiet--they are ok as long as they're in the car or the
stroller.
I think I've memorized every shop in every mall around here, and where all
the drive-thru's are ('cause of course I can't actually *stop* at a
restaurant to eat).

The laundry is piling up, the dishes need doing, the groceries aren't put
away and if Chris doesn't stop screaming I'm going to scream myself!

I knew it was going to be hard, but I feel like a total failure. What
sort
of mother can't handle being home with her children?

Sorry for the rant, thanks for listening.

Marie
Meet Macula at http://members.rogers.com/mmcw/
Meet the Kidlets at http://ca.f1.pg.photos.yahoo.com/mmcw2




- I think babies are supposed to be like that the house nor the
choirs aren't going anywhere so don't stress too much about that.

- Remember that I don't have any kids myself, so what I am about to say
might be very off and not anything you need to pay attention too but
.......... you might want to stop giving in to taking the boys on rides in
the car and walking them up and down town in order to keep them quiet. Our
old neighbour had a baby that could only sleep in the car (a running car) so
each night one of the parents would drive baby around all night in order for
the other parent to be able to sleep. Not only was is very expensive but
also very frustrating for family life and the fact that one parent wouldn't
get a chance to sleep....
At some point the boys will have to learn that you don't exist for them
only


Lone


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"Marie" wrote in message
le.rogers.com...
AAAAARGH!!!!!!!!!!

What made me think I could do this motherhood thing?!? I couldn't
even
raise a puppy properly!

The boys and I have been home for less than an hour all day.
Whenever we
are in the house together, Chris is screaming, Alex is crying,
Macula is
growling at me because I'm so obviously a bad mommy (and 'cause I
don't even
have time to play a game of tug with her). I have to take the boys
out for
them to be quiet--they are ok as long as they're in the car or the
stroller.
I think I've memorized every shop in every mall around here, and
where all
the drive-thru's are ('cause of course I can't actually *stop* at a
restaurant to eat).

The laundry is piling up, the dishes need doing, the groceries
aren't put
away and if Chris doesn't stop screaming I'm going to scream myself!

I knew it was going to be hard, but I feel like a total failure.
What sort
of mother can't handle being home with her children?

Sorry for the rant, thanks for listening.

Marie
Meet Macula at http://members.rogers.com/mmcw/
Meet the Kidlets at http://ca.f1.pg.photos.yahoo.com/mmcw2



Welcome to motherhood Marie
The babies are beautiful btw.
Ok, first, I looked at their ages, you're not a newbie at this.
Remember this phrase and repeat it every time you get to feeling
overwhelmed......*This too shall pass*
I'm not going to be lame and tell you to enjoy it while it lasts
because sometimes motherhood is just plain not enjoyable and nothing
anyone says can make it that way until Mom can get some sleep I
will tell you though that what you're feeling right now is perfectly
normal and it's OK to feel that way. You need to figure out each one
of your babies personal soothing trigger and use it to your advantage.
Hold them alot, forget the dishes and the laundry it will be there for
DH when he gets home Call in favors from friends and family. I'm
sure there are plenty of people you know who want to help you, you
just need to tell them what it is that you need (maybe someone could
bring over a couple of pre-made just heat them up meals or possibly
throw a couple of loads in the wash for you or stay at the house with
the babies for a couple hours so you can go get your hair trimmed with
the special extra long wash session cuz the head massage feels SO good
or take the dog for a walk for you etc etc) You need to remember to
take care of YOU too. Let your family and friends and DH help you.

*hugs*
feel better
Jen

"Marie" wrote in message
le.rogers.com...
AAAAARGH!!!!!!!!!!

What made me think I could do this motherhood thing?!? I couldn't
even
raise a puppy properly!

The boys and I have been home for less than an hour all day.
Whenever we
are in the house together, Chris is screaming, Alex is crying,
Macula is
growling at me because I'm so obviously a bad mommy (and 'cause I
don't even
have time to play a game of tug with her). I have to take the boys
out for
them to be quiet--they are ok as long as they're in the car or the
stroller.
I think I've memorized every shop in every mall around here, and
where all
the drive-thru's are ('cause of course I can't actually *stop* at a
restaurant to eat).

The laundry is piling up, the dishes need doing, the groceries
aren't put
away and if Chris doesn't stop screaming I'm going to scream myself!

I knew it was going to be hard, but I feel like a total failure.
What sort
of mother can't handle being home with her children?

Sorry for the rant, thanks for listening.

Marie
Meet Macula at http://members.rogers.com/mmcw/
Meet the Kidlets at http://ca.f1.pg.photos.yahoo.com/mmcw2



Welcome to motherhood Marie
The babies are beautiful btw.
Ok, first, I looked at their ages, you're not a newbie at this.
Remember this phrase and repeat it every time you get to feeling
overwhelmed......*This too shall pass*
I'm not going to be lame and tell you to enjoy it while it lasts
because sometimes motherhood is just plain not enjoyable and nothing
anyone says can make it that way until Mom can get some sleep I
will tell you though that what you're feeling right now is perfectly
normal and it's OK to feel that way. You need to figure out each one
of your babies personal soothing trigger and use it to your advantage.
Hold them alot, forget the dishes and the laundry it will be there for
DH when he gets home Call in favors from friends and family. I'm
sure there are plenty of people you know who want to help you, you
just need to tell them what it is that you need (maybe someone could
bring over a couple of pre-made just heat them up meals or possibly
throw a couple of loads in the wash for you or stay at the house with
the babies for a couple hours so you can go get your hair trimmed with
the special extra long wash session cuz the head massage feels SO good
or take the dog for a walk for you etc etc) You need to remember to
take care of YOU too. Let your family and friends and DH help you.

*hugs*
feel better
Jen

"Marie" wrote in message
le.rogers.com...
AAAAARGH!!!!!!!!!!

What made me think I could do this motherhood thing?!? I couldn't
even
raise a puppy properly!

The boys and I have been home for less than an hour all day.
Whenever we
are in the house together, Chris is screaming, Alex is crying,
Macula is
growling at me because I'm so obviously a bad mommy (and 'cause I
don't even
have time to play a game of tug with her). I have to take the boys
out for
them to be quiet--they are ok as long as they're in the car or the
stroller.
I think I've memorized every shop in every mall around here, and
where all
the drive-thru's are ('cause of course I can't actually *stop* at a
restaurant to eat).

The laundry is piling up, the dishes need doing, the groceries
aren't put
away and if Chris doesn't stop screaming I'm going to scream myself!

I knew it was going to be hard, but I feel like a total failure.
What sort
of mother can't handle being home with her children?

Sorry for the rant, thanks for listening.

Marie
Meet Macula at http://members.rogers.com/mmcw/
Meet the Kidlets at http://ca.f1.pg.photos.yahoo.com/mmcw2



Welcome to motherhood Marie
The babies are beautiful btw.
Ok, first, I looked at their ages, you're not a newbie at this.
Remember this phrase and repeat it every time you get to feeling
overwhelmed......*This too shall pass*
I'm not going to be lame and tell you to enjoy it while it lasts
because sometimes motherhood is just plain not enjoyable and nothing
anyone says can make it that way until Mom can get some sleep I
will tell you though that what you're feeling right now is perfectly
normal and it's OK to feel that way. You need to figure out each one
of your babies personal soothing trigger and use it to your advantage.
Hold them alot, forget the dishes and the laundry it will be there for
DH when he gets home Call in favors from friends and family. I'm
sure there are plenty of people you know who want to help you, you
just need to tell them what it is that you need (maybe someone could
bring over a couple of pre-made just heat them up meals or possibly
throw a couple of loads in the wash for you or stay at the house with
the babies for a couple hours so you can go get your hair trimmed with
the special extra long wash session cuz the head massage feels SO good
or take the dog for a walk for you etc etc) You need to remember to
take care of YOU too. Let your family and friends and DH help you.

*hugs*
feel better
Jen